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How to be happy
Human beings naturally seek happiness in life. But how can we find it?
Real happiness comes from within. It’s really a matter of personal choice. Yes, life is always about making choices. And that includes how you choose to feel. If you choose to feel horrible even when you live in heaven, *shrugs* - nothing helps.
Gratitude makes us appreciate life and feel satisfied with things we have in our hands. A poor person who’s grateful can live a happy life despite having little material belongings. Gratitude is like a pair of magic spectacles. When you wear it, you can see simple miracles happening every moment in life.
A sense of purpose in life is like a warm blanket covering us during cold days. Having a role to play in society and contributing to humanity helps to keep us grounded. Without a sense of purpose in life, we’ll feel stagnant and miserable. That’s why it’s healthy to engage others and stay active in society. It’s a powerful mood booster.
Our social aspect in life affects us significantly. How happy can you be when you live alone like a hermit? How nice is life when you have a lot of enemies surrounding you? Invest time, money, and energy in your social life and make more friends. You would like it when you are surrounded by many happy faces. It’s warm to have people laugh with you.
Standing firmly with both feet on solid ground is important. I’m saying that reality in life is important and still relevant to our state of mind. I bet you won’t be in happy mood when you are facing huge debt and job loss problem and your children are starving. We should deal with our reality and manage it well, so that reality can become a comfortable life support system for us to live a happy life. You can choose to strive for success in life (wealth, career, fame etc.). That way not only you live in a comfortable, solid reality, you also gain satisfaction from it. However, don’t over-believe that money and success is every thing in life. It’s important, but it’s just an fraction of the whole.
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To me, I think happiness is the feeling of growth, accomplishment or success. Not financial or career success but more of a success as a human being. Read more here.
I hope you don’t mind me leaving the links, I’m sure they’re all relevant with your post. Feel free to do the same at my blog.
Hello there!
I’m a bit of a new reader to your blog, but I thought I might shoot a seemingly off-topic question your way…but I promise there is something that made me ask!!
It seems as if a lot of your posts concern mental health; for example how to be happy, how to find a purpose in life, etc. I was wondering since it seems you are quite articulate on matters related to mental health, what your take on mental health recovery might be? I know the recovery movement is growing quite large in my region, but it seems to take on different attributes in different geographic and cultural surroundings.
If you haven’t yet heard about mental health recovery, there’s a few good articles about it here, and more information about it at this recovery model post.
Also something that seems like it might fit in here is an article about how to stay mentally healthy, which can be reached here.
If you have time to respond I would very much love to hear your take on the issues!! I would love to quote you on my blog, I will of course give you full credit and will refer back to you, but if you’d prefer I not then no worries at all I would still very much like to hear your take!
I look forward to talking with you soon!!
All the best,
Lex
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oh yeah purpose of like is very important…
and then you won’t be happy
without it ..it is like lost of direction in life
I agree “real happiness is from within” but how many people practice that?
Happy is very individual. Some when they are rich, that are happy, some even they are poor, but with family (there children around), they felt happy.
Since we talk about happy, why not we talk about unhappy to get a more insight of happiness.
Some folks, even with lots of money, still are unhappy, due to family quarreling, fighting for assets, no-use son / daughter.
Some lost their job, unhappy because they are not compensated, or could not find another job because of old age.
Some hoping for promotion, but never get, so unhappy.
Some lost their cars, money or valuable stuff due to theft, unhappy.
Some unhappy, because the girl / boy turn him down to be his/her boyfriend/girlfriend.
So, I coined it : “Being Happy is very individual”
it’s more of a personal choice..
but sometimes the surroundings will affect the happiness…
so the best thing is to be happy and to be in a happy surrounding.. =)